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Not that I've been at it all that long, but...

It's been a hard first month! Phew. Luckily my wonderful husband has taken to cooking dinner for us (almost) every night. Usually I'm a big fancy chef. I love to cook. It's definitely a de-stressor, but with the time (thought and preparation) that I like to put into recipes, it's not as calming as it has been in the past. I'm very thankful he is being so supportive and is taking the brunt of the cooking!

We have an office, but I've taken to studying at the kitchen table so we can see each other when we cross into/out of the kitchen. I feel like I see him a little more this way. Dunno how he feels about it, though. Of course, there are days I stay at the school to study, too. Win some, lose some, I guess.

I've gotten super stressed about studying and the freaking course load once or twice, and maybe possibly sortof blown up a little bit. But he's helped to defuse my anger. I always spend dinner with him (unless I've stayed at the school and he's too Starvin' Marvin to wait up for me). I take little breaks and come in and talk to him. When he gets home we talk about our days.

Being married in vet school is (in my opinion) very very different from being in a committed long-term relationship. I don't like going to social events often without my husband, so often I skip out on them, like Dyachei said. (I'm too dang old to go out and get drunk in the middle of a week when we have a looming test on the horizon, anyway!) One girl in my class has been dating a guy for like 5 years, but she's always willing to go out after class, go do dinner, out for someone's birthday, or out for drinks. Another girl doesn't live with her long-term boyfriend of 9 years, and just completely left him out of the equation for a week and a half because she "was too busy studying." You can't just leave your marriage to the elements, like that. It takes time, commitment, sacrifices.

Please don't take this as saying, anything bad about non-married relationships; I'm just saying you can afford to leave a lot more to chance when it's not written in stone. Once you're in a marriage, it has to come first; you can't be as selfish as vet school makes you want to be in order to make top grades.

Hope this is helpful for someone...I may be rambling due to late-night studying and lack of caffeine. lol

This thread is a great idea, by the way. It's wonderful seeing everyone's take on how to 'survive.' Keep it going!

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